Someone I follow on Facebook posted an article today and I wanted to share the article with you, as well as my thoughts on it. Since this is my blog, I can do that.
The article here is wonderfully written. I would encourage you to click the link and read it. Go ahead, I’ll wait here until you get back. You’ll better understand my point of view if you read it.
My thoughts on this article are pretty short and to the point but I feel they need to be shared since the writer didn’t touch on a very important piece that is key in this discussion.
First, let me say that I agree with what this writer said. The buck should rarely stop at the child.
Sadly, society is trying their hardest to bind the hands of the parents. We’re told to not ‘step on the kids rights’ and told that discipling is the same as trying to murder a child. Yet, that same society screams and cries (and points fingers) when the kids who we weren’t supposed to discipline run rampant. It’s a double edged sword for a parent who wants to do the best to raise their child to be a responsible, mature adult.
Parents either fear disciplining their kids in public lest they get arrested, or they wipe their hands of parenting and hope the kids can get it right themselves… which they seldom can do without guidance.
Sorry society, you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Either you want to roll the dice and hope that our kids turn out okay as you attempt to tie our hands behind our backs, or you want us to parent our kids to the best of our ability. Not with abuse, but with controlled, loving discipline.
“…our objective as moms and dads is to transform our sons from immature and flighty youngsters into honest, caring men who will be respectful of women, loyal and faithful in marriage, keepers of commitment, strong and decisive leaders, good workers and men who are strong in their masculinity.” ~ Dr. Dobson
With very little changes to that sentence it encompasses what we want for our daughters as well.
I know that there are some bad parents out there who make very bad, and deadly, decisions.
However, the majority of us raise our kids with discipline and not abuse.
We love them and want them to do life well and that is why we will discipline in love, now. Not waiting until they are running with gangs, killing others and destroying themselves to step in.
Who gets the last say? The same One who had the first say.
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